Rebound Relationship Advice For Those Left Behind
What do you do when your partner is in a rebound relationship, even if your partner is still living at home and unaware that you know what’s going on?
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As time goes by in a relationship, either of the partners can begin to feel an urge to move on - it could be part of a mid life crisis where feelings of returning to a long lost youth raise their heads, or they’ve met a person who has caused a stir inside them - either way, they think that they must make a move before they’re too old to enjoy it.
Pushing your partner away can also make them start a rebound relationship, not just to stop thinking about you, but to improve their self confidence.
You must realize that blame is not for this situation, no matter who ended the relationship, if you still love each other the situation can be rectified.
So what do you do? Ending a relationship is emotionally exhausting, so at first just have some time to yourself (the reason for this will get apparent as we proceed), and don’t get angry with yourself, you need to be cool and calm at this time.
Next you have to think about the options open to you, there being two, of which the first is to go away and begin a rebound relationship yourself, but you must be prepared for complications further on up the road.
This may not be a good time for hypotheses, consider this:
It is recognised that there are four periods to any relationship, which are Forming, Storming, Norming and Performing.
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These stages happen to every relationship, and are central to understanding how you are going to win your partner back. The “Forming” phase is simply that, meeting, sharing common ground etc, then the “Storming”, where we might discover the less appealing parts of our prospective partner’s emotional make up (we
love them or leave them here!), the “Norming” phase where we decide to stay with this person, and if the good points outweigh the cons, the “Performing”period.
As your ex approaches the “storming” phase of their rebound relationship, you’re relaxing, preparing yourself to pick up the pieces.
People say opposites are attracted toeach other. It should not be a surprise if this is the case with your ex’s new partner and they are totally the opposite to you - this is your ex trying to make a point, and you may have to reinvent yourself a little to get them back.
The truth is, if your ex still has love for you (remember, rebound relationships are often to prove a point rather than the beginning of a deep and meaningful relationship), when they get to the storming stage they might well realise how much happier they were you were together.
Put your view of blame for the break up aside. Don’t be distant yet don’t over fussy either, be a grown up but not macho. Just
because their rebound relationship is ending, don’t rest on your laurels or play the blame game, this will send them straight back into their rebound relationship, no matter if they think there’s nothing long term there. Don’t go the other way and be desperately apologetic either.
Communication (or lack of it), is often the single cause as to why older relationships get into difficulties. Make sure that, as you recover your relationship, set aside time to communicate (and listen!) to each other. Little talking and listening can lead to separate lives.
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