How Can You Mend A Broken Heart? Here Are Some Great Tips!
She’s gone and all of a sudden you find yourself wondering just how you’re going to manage without her. You feel as if someone you love just died - and you’re right, your relationship is dead. You’re mourning your loss. You feel lousy - that’s to be expected, most men have gone through it. Welcome to the club! But here’s a fact: you’ll get over it. Here’s another fact - life is full of things more essential than relationships with women, even the one who just dumped you. She knocked you down - big deal, it happens to all of us sooner or later. She’s gone now, so the only thing keeping you down is you. Get up and get cracking!
The primary goal now is to get her completely out of your mind. The way to do this, paradoxically, is to let the mourning process take its course. Feel the sorrow and suffer the loss of your loving relationship - it’s a natural process and strengthens you to get back on your feet and return to the world. As the misery begins to pass, it’s time to clear the decks. Everything in your place that belongs to her or reminds you of her should be packed up. Clothing, pictures, toiletries, everything must be packed up. Once you’ve packed everything up, don’t just put it on the floor in the closet - this is a subtle way your subconscious has of refusing to let her go. If her stuff is there, that means she’s coming back sooner or later, right? So ship the box back to her and take the next big step toward mending your broken heart! Once you’ve dropped the carton off at the post office, take stock, shower down, put on some clothes you wouldn’t mind being seen in, and get back to living your life!
This is a special time - time you have to yourself, time you can devote to yourself. Don’t try to find another woman to get involved with now - there’ll be plenty of time for that later. Use this time for yourself - read the books you kept putting off, take on those projects around your place that you never seemed to be able to find time for. Look into the hobbies you’re interested in but also never seemed to have time for. Go places and do things that interest you, not just to satisfy her. Be wary of the television, though. It’s simple just to sink into an easy chair, turn on the tube and pretty much drop out of life. This does you no good - turn the television off!
Remember that you don’t simply want to get your mind off your ex, you want to get your mind back on life. Get outside - your relationship took place largely inside those four walls, so you should be passing more of your time out of it. Take walks in local parks - it’s good for your health. Visit museums and other attractions and actually pay attention to the presentations - not only will you learn, you may find inspiration for other pursuits. Don’t restrict yourself just to sedentary activities - make sure there’s a good mix of physical activities as well. This will help you stay (or get) in shape, as well as give you an outlet for the frustrations that will from time to time build up inside you.
Changing your surroundings is good, even if you only do it on day-trips or weekend getaways. Don’t seek destinations for their romantic atmosphere or the opportunities to meet women, select them for the local attractions. Avoid bars and partying, although real social drinking - that is, drinking in moderation - is acceptable, but avoid at all costs the urge to overdo it. Getting drunk will only take you down the path to self-pity, depression and despair. It’s not time for getting involved with women yet. As observed already, they’ll be back in your life soon enough - use this time for yourself. Besides, if you’re not really over getting walked out on, you may have a subconscious urge to hurt the next woman in your life, and you don’t want to get involved until that urge is gone. A more difficult option now is to take an honest-to-goodness vacation (you’ve been promising yourself one for ages, right?). Go somewhere far away and spend a week or more there, visiting the local attractions and just taking it easy and enjoying yourself.
There’s an old saying: “One nail doesn’t drive out another nail.” In this context, it means that you can’t replace your lost love, and you can’t replace the failed relationship and make it somehow work. All you can do is heal, and when the time is right, meet a new woman (not a replacement woman) and start a new relationship (not a replacement relationship). How will you know when it’s appropriate to get involved with a woman again? There’ll be no feeling of pressure to get involved again, and you won’t be thinking in terms of “replacing” your ex-girlfriend. One day you’ll meet someone and the possibility of spending time with her will intrigue you on its own merits, without having anything to do with the old relationship. And if you wait until the right time, your new relationship will be infinitely more fulfilling than the old one.
If you found this helpful with helping you deal with your broken heart, also check out Mending a Broken Heart, Hot to Get Through a Breakup, and Magic of Making Up Review.
