Getting a Girlfriend Back with Curiosity - She Won't Be Able To Resist

Who knows what happens?  One minute things are going great, then the next she says those fateful words “We need to talk . . .” and she's out of your life. There are three steps you can take to win her back if you genuinely want her. This is a serious approach - don't undertake it if you're not really serious about her.  However, it carries a high likelihood of success because it touches a woman where she's most vulnerable - her curiosity and her pride. You will be on her mind even if she was serious about the breakup, and she won't rest until she's satisfied the curiosity you've triggered.

The first step is easy: disappear. This means totally - if feasible, get out of town for a while.  Neither she nor her friends can see or hear from you. Women who break up with men are used to having them keep trying to reconcile - sometimes it takes weeks or months for a man to understand that it's really over. Your job now is to break that mold. After a few days she'll try calling you - “Just to see if you're alright.” When she can't get in touch with you, she'll contact her friends - and then yours. It's your job to prepare them, make sure they don't give her any sense of what you're up to or where you are. You've got some time on your hands now, but don't waste it.  You've got to make some adjustments in your own life: try getting a new wardrobe that gives you a new look, change your hairstyle, lose some weight if necessary (but if weight loss is part of your approach, don't change wardrobes until you're at your desired weight!), join a gym and get into the habit of working out regularly . . . in short, perform a makeover on yourself, major or minor, it's up to you.  Of course, your phone numbers have to change as well - this approach just isn't going to work if she can just hit her speed dial and talk to you.  When she does start hearing reports about you, they have to emphasize that you've changed, and for the better.  She's got to think that you really have a new life, and that it somehow relates to your putting her behind you.

Okay, you're in better shape now, you've got a new look that you really like . . . it's time to go to phase two. Like the first stage, though, it's got to be properly supervised to get the best results! The first step in showing off the new you is to invite a select group of friends to a get-together at your place.  Nothing big, mind you - this is like the preview of a movie, where only influential people are invited.  You want word to get back to her.  Prepare properly for the gathering - spend some time on a tanning bed to get some good color.  Go get a manicure - men's fingernails all too often are the one jarring note on an otherwise pleasing canvas. And pay attention to the details as well - added together, they make up the whole. You've undergone some personal changes, now make some changes in the way you entertain.  Forget the chips and dip - get some intriguing exotic finger foods for your friends to nosh on, and also be sure you have enough of whatever beverages you're serving so that you don't run out.  Forget about playing the same old CD's - soft and mellow should be your standard for music, preferably music you've never played for these folks before. You want people to be able to have nice talks without having to shout at each other. And this is crucial - make certain that you invite someone you're absolutely certain is going to report back to her - and make sure that person gets your new phone number to pass along!

Okay, the trap is set and baited, but you still need to entice your prey to step in.  Get out a bit more, go to places you know her friends might see you. Her friends will be inquisitive and will want to find out all about what you're up to - and who you're doing it with.  Tell them no more than you want her to hear - you control the flow of information now.  Suggest that you're spending time with someone, but don't let it sound important. She might not call you promptly, but don't worry.  She's getting the handpicked information you're sending her, but she's just not ready to burst yet.

The time will arrive, finally,  that you actually bump into each other. Peck her on the cheek and keep your conversation light, general things, nothing deep or personal. Be a gentleman - not aloof, but not too close.  Tell her you'd like to chat over a cup of coffee sometime: ask if she has the same phone number and let her know you'll be in touch. How you leave this first meeting is as important as everything you've done to this point - you must continue to give the impression that getting back together is the furthest thing from your mind.  Simply walk away and don't look back, not at all, not even from a distance.

Now let some time elapse - the impression you're trying to express is of a more mature, more responsible person - someone with his path well-charted but who'll take the time to catch up with old friends.  Then call and ask her to coffee, or perhaps lunch (never dinner!) at a nice, fashionable place - but not one you've eaten at together before. Share a table out in the open and have a nice conversation.  Good topics are the climate, current events, entertainment, etc.  Taboo topics include your relationship together, how it ended, and the current status of your personal lives. Your main goal now is to keep her altogether relaxed and at ease.  Resist the temptation to dredge up your history together. That's what she's expecting, and that's how she assumes the average man would try to get back together.  She's on the lookout for it, so leave it alone - you don't want to lose all the time and effort you've put into winning her back just because you were impatient! Whatever she's been thinking during your meal together, any concerns she might have had about you trying to get her to take you back haven't been realized.  Paradoxically, she might be worrying that you're going to try to cram it into your goodbye, so stay cool!  Walk her out like the gentleman you are, kiss her lightly on the cheek, and tell her you'll call again.  When you walk away this time, it's appropriate to take a few steps, pause, glance back over your shoulder and, if she's watching you, give a little smile and wave - and then continue walking away.

Your innocuous meeting will only fill her with more curiosity - how is it that you're doing well without her, and how can you possibly sit with her and not want to talk about the relationship that she ended?  She'll be anxious to get more information from you, especially after being unable to get any during your luncheon meeting! Your hunt is done now - your prey is within your grasp and exhausted from the chase.  She doesn't realize it, but it's only a matter of time before your relationship's re-established. Although it might not seem like it, the hunt is pretty much over and you've won. For the sake of the relationship, take it slow and easy - you'll both appreciate that you did. And above all, have fun!

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