How to Get Her Back, Even if She’s Already With Someone Else!

In many cases, when a woman dumps a man, she’s already got another guy picked out, so that by the time the first man gets over the shock of the breakup, she’s already with her new boyfriend, and it seems too late to try to get her back. Even if it took a while to get over the shock of the breakup, though, it’s not impossible to get her back, even if she’s with another man now. You’ve got to be crafty to persuade her to return to you, but it can be done. Don’t think that just because she’s seeing some other man, she’s unavailable.

Rebound relationships rarely last

When a relationship breaks up, it’s best to spend time alone for a while and get over it.  Some people, though, take up with a new lover right away, but these new relationships rarely last and usually are characterized by much heartache and suffering. Frustrating as it is, you cannot take direct action now - you’ve got to be patient and let her return to you . . . with a little subtle help from you, of course!

Stupidity has killed too many relationships - don’t add yours to the list

Even though you’re concerned about her emotional stability now, don’t forget that you’re dealing with the hurt and anguish of breaking up yourself, and are likely to act without thinking.  Here’s a trick you can use - if you decide to do something, write down what you want to do, and then don’t do anything until you’ve had a good night’s sleep - and then read the plan again the next day.  You’ll be grateful you waited, because most likely the plan was foolish. Don’t approach her and tell her she’s wrong to see someone so soon after your breakup - in fact, don’t approach her or talk to her at all.  Give her the respect of leaving her on her own for now.  The advantage here is that when she starts to realize the mistake she’s made, nobody can say that you interfered with her thinking by contacting or and trying to get back together with her. She’s put herself in a lose-lose position by getting involved with someone else so quickly.  Inevitably she’ll be comparing him with you, and simply because she’s got a long, positive history with you, he’s always going to be lacking in these comparisons.  She’ll start thinking that leaving you was a mistake.

The beginning of the end

It’s inevitable, because even though she’s left you physically, she hasn’t done so emotionally.  So in every moment together with her new man, she’s comparing him with you, looking to find in him the qualities that brought her together with you. He’ll be aware she’s comparing him with you, and he’ll feel hurt, and it’ll be hard for him to contribute to their relationship, leading her to doubt his commitment to the relationship and to her.  She knows that you didn’t have a problem making a commitment to her.

Leave her alone - let her contact you

This is an important concept to understand - if she’s in contact with you, she’ll lean on you because that’s what she’s used to doing, even while she’s having trouble with her new man. While she’s going through these problems with him, she cannot rely on you for support to help her through it. You don’t want to help her through this challenging time and establish a good relationship with him, now do you?  So stay away!

If you have patience and the wisdom discussed here, you can win back a girlfriend who leaves you for another man. Many men have found themselves in similar circumstances and won their girlfriends back.  They did what you’ve got to do - make a plan based on these strategies, and stick to it. In addition to requiring self-discipline to stick to your plan, you’re also going to need a good amount of patience - and considering that you’re also under considerable emotional strain due to the breakup, that might not be so easy. Observing her with the new man will help to motivate and inspire you.  Think of it this way - this is just a short separation until you two get back together again.

If you found this article helpful and want to learn more ways to get the love of your life back, check out Win Back Your Girlfriend, What to Do When You Get Dumped, and Jason Hicks Second Chance Romance.