If You Stop Playing the Blame Game, You can Start Saving Your Marriage

If you are serious about saving your marriage or relationship or are working together to stop your divorce, then a very important first step is to stop playing the blame game. Of all the advice on relationships I offer to my clients, especially those surviving an affair, this is the most important single thing.

What is the blame game? Simple, blaming your husband, wife or partner for everything that is wrong in your marriage. Until you take this simple step and start taking responsibility for how YOU feel, rather than pointing the finger at your other half, things are unlikely to change for the better.

If you play the blame game, all you are doing is creating further anger and conflict in your marriage rather than allowing any real communication or problem solving.

Here is an example of what I mean. ” Your always out with your friends and not with me” is an accusation and an attack, and your partner will in all probability respond in a defensive manner. What do you do when someone points a finger in your face? Your automatic response is to push it away! However if you were to say “ I am feeling very lonely” that is quite a different way of saying the same thing isn’t it?

The huge difference here is that rather than laying the blame, you are taking responsibiliy, and this makes a massive difference in the response you will recieve. As your partner does not feel that you are attacking or accusing them, they will listen to what you have to say rather than defend themselves.

This use of the “I” STATEMENT, rather than “you” is often the most important factor in restarting communication and dealing with marital/relationship problems. It enables couples to clearly outline their problems in a way that will get them heard by the other person.

Try using this powerful tool to outline your relationship needs rather than playing the blame game, and guarantee that you will be amazed at the results. Saving my marriage using this technique becomes a whole lot easier.

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