Develop A Romance Connection
Ever run into a brick wall, as they say, with your mate? Can’t seem to pass go without collecting 200 fresh wounds? Well, it is time to build a bridge and tear down that brick wall. Here are your tools:
ATTITUDE – Get an attitude adjustment primary. Lighten up and do a 180-degree about face. Read the Sunday comics, grab an old comic book, turn on the Comedy channel, watch funny videos or DVDs. Get inside a much better mood and pass it along to your mate. Invite your mate to tune in to comedy with you, too.
FRIENDSHIP – Return to getting friends for starters now that you’re in a great mood. Forget the love stuff, if you want. And just focus on becoming excellent friends; share compliments, do things for one one more, get out there and have fun jointly, enjoy one another’s organization.
RELAX – Let your hair down. Trust and relax. Be yourself. Really don’t let old wounds open or fester. Forget the garbage memories and just be inside the present in concert.
TIME OUT – If possible, spend additional time in concert for awhile, like during your original courting days. Hire a sitter, order out, eat at fast food places, grab ice cream cones and go for walks in the park. Become familiar with one another all over again. That’s the key. Then you will remember why you fell for each other at first and history will hopefully repeat itself.
COMMUNICATION – Take it slow and easy. Keep away from subjects that you do not agree upon. And slowly re-learn to communicate with each other all over again. If necessary, and it’s not a crime or shame get assist. Seek a trusted friend or adviser, a church clergy member or certified professional counselor. No need to do it by themselves. Discover your weak areas and how to above come them and plan for future communication difficulties.
Targets – Gradually develop objectives in concert so you’ll have a direction to head. Write them down in a notebook just for both of you. And above time, develop them, revise them, cross them off your list. The idea is to have goals in concert and work towards a common goal.
SCRAP BOOK – Create a memory album with each other. Add photos, clippings, menus and anything that reminds you of the good times. Then when tough times comes, you will have something to hold on to your bridge to romance.
So don’t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s issues magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.
