A Way To Get Your Ex Back In Minutes

When you want to get your ex back, you want to get them back as quickly as possible.  But how can you do this?  Most people trying bugging their ex’s, calling or texting ten times a day.  When this doesn’t work, they give up and hope that time will heal the wounds, so they settle in to wait weeks or months.  You can learn more about getting intimacy back here.

But often you can get your ex back fast, in just a few days.  Sometimes you can get your ex back in minutes.   Here’s what you need to understand to accomplish this:  Go here to learn more about resolving relationship conflict.

You ex used to feel good things in their heart about you.  They broke up with you because negative feelings like anger or sadness or boredom replaced those good feelings.  The positive feelings are now covered over by negative emotions.  That’s why you broke up.

To get your ex back fast - to get them back at all - you need to help them to release the bad feelings filling their heart.  When you can do that, you can get your ex back sometimes in as little as 30 minutes or less.

How in the world can you, who learned no emotional skills in school, possibly help your ex to release their bad feelings towards you?  There is a seven step process to accomplish this, but one of the key parts you already have used and understand.  It’s generally called venting or getting things off your chest or emptying your cup.

What you have to do is help them to vent.  Let them get these feelings about you off their chest.   So if you cheated on them, for example, they are feeling betrayed, hurt, ashamed.  That’s what fills their heart now.  You’ve got to get them to vent, to empty their cup, to tell you how they feel about what you did. You don’t argue, you don’t defend yourself, you get them to talk and tell you what they think of you.

As they cry or attack you or curse you, if you don’t argue or defend yourself, they will be releasing those negative feelings.  If you do argue with them, then the negative feelings get reinforced.  If you make them feel heard, the emotional charge will get released, making room in their heart to take you back.

There is a whole art and science to getting your ex to vent in a way that is effective, but if you can get your ex to vent their negative feelings you can often help them make room in their heart to give you a second chance.  This can happen within 15 minutes, sometimes, depending on what happened and how you go about reconnecting.  There’s more to this, but you don’t need to wait weeks or months to get your ex back if you have a powerful reconnect strategy.  Go here to learn more about Fixing Relationship Problems.