Posts Tagged ‘Communication’

Relationship Help On Men And Intimacy

love relationships

It is obvious that the way men and women approach relationship is different.  Nothing unusual there.  But it is useful relationship intelligence to understand a bit more about how men and women are lined up towards intimacy. You can get info on Relationship Help here.

Men don’t generally practice intimacy in the same way as women.  They don’t get much practice growing up at nurturing, empathizing, and being other focused.  It was not in their enculteration as children.

Yes, men know how to communicate in relationship, but the way in which we communicate is often different than females, it is usually oriented towards problem-solving (a form of winning), and establishing dominance (or avoiding it from others).

So men, speaking in large generalities here, know a lot about winning and losing, boundaries and control.  They may not know much about empathy and the value of nurturing others and focusing on the needs of others.

Growing up, boys play different games than girls.  Playing cowboys and Indians and playing army, boys learn about territory and dominance.  Nothing wrong with boys playing such games, it is actually good for them developmentally, but they don’t learn much about loving and empathizing and nurturing.  You can get more How To Get Relationship Advice here.

Girls of course played different games than boys.  Girls spend years playing with dolls.  Imagine that!  Girls spend years playing at nurturing and loving their dolls.  So when it comes to relationship skills, which sex brings the most talent to the table?

Is it men, who learned early to say “I shot you, you are dead!”  Or is it women, who learned early how to nurture and empathize and socialize? 

Here then is the point.  Men, recognize that you may need some help learning to nurture and empathize and connect with others, including your mate.  Women, don’t go around assuming your should know what to do when it comes to nurturing and loving.  You may have to gently guide them in the right direction.  Intimacy factors can be learned!  You can learn more about Get Love Back In Just Hours  here.