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Handling Conflict to Avoid Violence

In your relationship, there will be times when one of you will most likely to loose control and will have misunderstandings.

These conflicts are things of our daily life..
Without the process of resolving in a peaceful manner, some situations can lead to violence.

Here are some suggestions to handle conflict in order to avoid violence:

• Focus the problem and not on the person. The issue can usually be settled in a very civilized and mutually beneficial manner.
• By saying “You are wrong” to your partner, you are putting him in a defensive position.”  If you don’t share his views, just say ‘I don’t agree’, or ‘We can see it from this other perspective’.
• Don’t interrupt the other person when explaining his side. Try to listen carefully when emotions are high. This will help avoid unnecessary additional conflict that could worsen the situation.
• Repeat and confirm what you hear from him. Do it in the most considerate and respectful way. Show that you listen, and that you try to understand what the other perceives.
• Don’t raise your voice. Try to speak in a calm manner to your partner.
• Finally, do not make your partner look and feel bad. Discuss this in private so to save from embarrassment in front of his colleagues

Resolving a conflict is a matter of establishing levels of connection and effective channels of communication. It wll always be pleasurable to have agreed upon something. And it will also give you a greater capacity to resolve other conflicts in the future.

Neil Warner

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Tow Ways To Resolve Interpersonal Conflict

Do you feel like your are allways  avoiding conflicting situations?

Are you feeling pushed to accept a deal where you don’t get your needs met?

Today I want to discuss with you how to deal with conflicting situations instead of avoiding them. You are also going to learn more ways on how to deal with handling issues and find solutions in every conflict that you encounter.

What if there are more ways of dealing with conflict? What if you could use these opportunities to strengthen and deepen your relationships adding a deep feeling of connection, more meaning and sense of satisfaction?

You may think that avoiding conflict situation to keep the peace.

But the question is, do you feel happy deep inside? Or you are just giving up your own needs of recognition and affection, in exchange of ‘peace’?

Here are some thoughts while dealing with conflictive situations:

• You have to be able to give in once in a while. It is fair for the both of you.
• Just agreed to avoid the silent treatment.
• It is best to calm things down.
• Bringing up the past make things worse.

It just seems so easy to ignore the problems or just accept them, than trying to do something about your differences. Specially when you don’t know how to approach the situation and get something positive out of it.

Your partner expects that that is the way you are going to react so they continue doing what they have always done. At your expenses..

Unfortunately, these unresolved issues tend to bulid up inside you and at the end there will be so much accumulate resentment it will be too late for you to save your relationship.

Remember: Small differences arise between people in their everyday lives. If you decide something for your relationship, then both of you should be willing to commit to the resolution that you have made. Conflict becomes necessary at times, it can help save your marriage if done in a thoughtful manner…

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Neil Warner

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