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Handling Conflict to Avoid Violence

In your relationship, there will be times when one of you will most likely to loose control and will have misunderstandings.

These conflicts are things of our daily life..
Without the process of resolving in a peaceful manner, some situations can lead to violence.

Here are some suggestions to handle conflict in order to avoid violence:

• Focus the problem and not on the person. The issue can usually be settled in a very civilized and mutually beneficial manner.
• By saying “You are wrong” to your partner, you are putting him in a defensive position.”  If you don’t share his views, just say ‘I don’t agree’, or ‘We can see it from this other perspective’.
• Don’t interrupt the other person when explaining his side. Try to listen carefully when emotions are high. This will help avoid unnecessary additional conflict that could worsen the situation.
• Repeat and confirm what you hear from him. Do it in the most considerate and respectful way. Show that you listen, and that you try to understand what the other perceives.
• Don’t raise your voice. Try to speak in a calm manner to your partner.
• Finally, do not make your partner look and feel bad. Discuss this in private so to save from embarrassment in front of his colleagues

Resolving a conflict is a matter of establishing levels of connection and effective channels of communication. It wll always be pleasurable to have agreed upon something. And it will also give you a greater capacity to resolve other conflicts in the future.

Neil Warner

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