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How to Handle a Breakup

Breakups are not easy, they can be very painful and devastating. Here is some advice I’ve picked up over the years on how to help you move on, get closure about the breakup or even giving your relationship a second shot.

The reasons behind the split up don’t matter, all relationships that end have either one or both of the people involved needing space from the relationship. You can explore all your options while you guys apart. You can do anything from experiencing life as a single person, dating other people, to reflecting about your life and where it’s going. Use the time apart to do anything you want. If you got dumped, the main reason behind it, is your partner wants to see what their options are and take a step back from the relationship.

I advise you to give your partner the space that they need. You will push them further away from you if you keep bugging them about getting back together. If you keep calling or texting them, they will feel as if you are not giving them the space they need. You will still have to give them the space they want even if you just want to stay in contact to maintain a friendship or as a way to eventually get back together. If you get what I’m saying, then giving them the space they need shouldn’t be too difficult.

I usually tell my friends that are going through this to take about two weeks to a month to stop all contact with thier ex. This step is the hardest part. Oh, I know how tempting it is to call, text or email your ex, it can be excruciating to fight back those urges.

Allowing him to have the space he needs will give him a chance to miss you. You will undoubtedly be on his mind when you give him the space he needs. He will be thinking of all the great times you guys have shared together. I know you’ve heard this before, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

Take advantage of the “no contact” rule yourself. You can use the time as a chance for working through the complicated emotions you get with breaking up. You can use this time to decide if this relationship is worth saving. Having some time to yourself can also give you the opportunity to try new things and meet new people. You might find out that you are better off without him.

Hey, maybe your ex will be the one contacting you. This might feel like  a dream come true if you’ve done everything you can and all that’s happened was you drove him away further.

So remember, if you are dumped, take my advice and give your ex a few weeks of space and see what happens next. I’m pretty sure it will be hard, but in doing so, it will help your situation.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out Advice for Breakups, Advice for the Broken Hearted, and How to Cope with a Breakup.

Survive A Break Up With these Tips

Picking yourself up emotionally can be an extremely difficult thing to do immediately after you’ve had a divorce or have broken up with your partner. Difficult? Yes. But not impossible. To help you move on, here are our top 3 tips for surviving a break up.

Help For Surviving A Break Up

1. Expect to feel miserable: The advice that you’re going to get from most people will be to move on and be positive. However, before you can start doing that, you need to accept that you’re going to be miserable for some time and that’s ok. A break up will leave you shocked (whether you’re exhibiting the signs or not) so you have to give yourself time for those feelings to run their course. If you take this time off instead of trying to be falsely cheerful for others around you, then when you do get out of your unhappy haze, it will be for good.

2. Avoid anything that is depressing: If you are constantly being exposed to discouraging and gloomy things then surviving a break up will become that much more difficult. Thus, you need to stay away from depressing stuff. This includes negative people who never talk positively but are always complaining about something or the other. You should even try and avoid reading the newspaper (which is full of dismal global news) and watching the news on TV.

When you do so, far fewer stress hormones will be released in your body which not just helps to keep you physically healthy but also enhances your emotional well being greatly. Needless to say, a happy state of mind makes surviving a break up that much easier.

3. Learn to visualize a happy future: If you’re going to concentrate on the sadness that lies ahead of you, that’s what you’ll get. But, if you can learn to visualize a happy future, then that is what you’ll create. In order to do that, you need to:

Relax your mind through breathing and meditation

Focus on what causes you pain

Consciously replace those painful feelings with happy thoughts and events

Thus, by altering the way you think, you can develop a positive attitude that will make surviving a break up easy.

Just break up?

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