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A Love Relationship, and What Can Go Wrong.

Let’s face it, men frequently make blunders in the first year of a love relationship. By following these few guide lines, will help to make sure that the two of you will be able to enjoy many years to come with each other.

The first year of a love relationship can be very exciting. This is the beginning of what will hopefully be the first of many years together. The two of you are learning so much about each other, both the good and the bad. In this first year it is important to set the tone for the subsequent years, or there just may not be any more!

During that first year, a woman discovers how much her man really cares about her and their love relationship.

Guys, you really have to pay attention in that first year and don’t screw up. You aren’t out to come across as ‘Mr. Perfect’, but you need to be attentive to her and her needs, along with watching how she perceives you. Below are the top 6 areas where men goof up.

Saying I love you constantly

Three of the most wonderful, beautiful words to be spoken are, I love you. And women love to hear them, just not all the time. After hearing the words ‘I love you’ over and over, they lose their meaning; she will get to the point where she thinks, ‘Ya, whatever.’ Saying ‘I love you’ at special times, in special moments, are far more meaningful than saying it all the time in a love relationship.

Tolerating everything about her

Let’s face it, both men and women are going to be on their best behavior in that first year of a love relationship, but if you avoid talking about things that bother you…you are just looking for trouble. Think of it, how do you expect her to react if you wait months to tell her that it pisses you off when she does/doesn’t do *fill in the blank*?

It doesn’t matter what it is, tell her upfront. You will most likely find out there are things you do that irritate her, good! Better to find out now rather than later. Do so in a loving way, but let her know when something bothers you. Better to tell her in the beginning when you both can be calm, as opposed to waiting and it becoming a full blown argument.

Being the one to initiate sex every time

Some men believe that sex can only happen in the bedroom…wrong. Let her know too that it’s ok for her to initiate sex, that way you are kept wondering about when the next time will be.

Becoming inattentive

Just because she always takes the time to look her best, does not mean you should stop letting her know that you do notice. Did you used to send her little love notes? Keep doing it. Did the two of you used to go out for dinner? You may not be able to afford a fancy dinner in these times, but taking her out even for an appetizer, or just a cup of coffee shows that your love relationship still matters to you.

Did you used to take out to the movies? Unless she has all of a developed a sudden distain for film of any kind, keep taking her out. The economy shouldn’t keep you from having a good time together. Go out and bring home a couple DVDs and cuddle up on the couch and watch them while munching on some popcorn. Bottom line is, just because you are used to being around each other is no excuse for taking her for granted. 

Avoiding an argument

Open communication is key to a love relationship. A calm discussion now about a problem is far more appealing than a full blown argument in the future. By keeping quiet about something that is bothering you, you are essentially telling her that nothing is wrong. If you don’t bring it up now, she will resent you when she does find out.

Leaving all decisions up to her

Few people like to be responsible for every decision. And even more women dislike a man who won’t ever step up to the plate and make his feeling known. Leaving all the decisions to her, she will lose respect for you, and enventually begin to doubt that you are committed to making your love relationship work. Every relationship needs compromise but, deliberate avoidance of making decisions is another.

It’s ok to ask her what to wear for a special occasion; if you really are fashion challenged, but pick out your own clothes any other time. If she has been to a certain restaurant before and you have not; it’s ok to ask her opinion on what she likes there; but you need to decide which burger you want at the drive-thru!

Avoiding making these mistakes can help ensure that you and your love are able to share many more years to come after and avoid the things that could could go wrong in your relationship.

Getting Your Ex Back Without Apologizing Endless Times

One of the mistakes many people make when trying to get their ex back is to say I’m sorry a thousand times.  There is nothing wrong with a good apology in many cases.  But saying I’m sorry over and over can actually cause your ex to move further away from you.  Learn more about Get Ex Back In Just Hours here.

Instead of apologizing repeatedly, there are better things to do to get your ex back.  First, don’t apologize if you did nothing wrong.  If you ex left because they drifted apart from you, apologizing would make you sound pathetic.

Of course, if you did something wrong that needs an apology, that’s a great place to start.  You have to understand what you did wrong and be ready to apologize, just don’t start with an apology - yet.

Before you ever get around to apologizing, do a few powerful things first.  To begin with, let’s say you committed adultery.  You cheated on your ex.  They kicked you out and are feeling a lot of betrayal and anger.  You can learn more about making up with your ex girlfriend specfics here.

Instead of rushing in and saying I’m sorry, start by admitting what you did wrong.  Your ex needs to know that you understand you did wrong.  So own up to it.  Do not justify or try to explain yourself.

The next important step is almost always overlooked.  And that is to get your ex to vent.  Venting allows your ex to get all their negative feelings out, off their chest.  So you must get them to and then let them vent before you apologize.

If you can do both of those things, admit what you did wrong and get them to vent, you are in great shape. Now, when you apologize, they can hear you.  Now you’re I’m sorry has a chance of being heard.  And being accepted.

So if your ex deserves an I’m sorry, make it a powerful one.  And do that by letting your ex vent and letting your ex hear you own up to what you did wrong.  That way, you may be able to get your ex back in hours or a few days rather than waiting months hoping they’ll cool down and forgive you.  Go here for a free course on How To Get Relationship Help.