6 Reasons Why People Cheat In Marriage.
How many times have most of us heard the comment from someone who has been cheated on that they had no idea that their partner was involved in an extramarital affair? Often this is because they have failed to pick up on the inevitable small or subtle signs, of their partner’s infidelity. In a strong marital relationship, any attraction to a member of the opposite sex will be merely passive and any intimate advances from a member of the opposite sex will be rejected. Generally speaking the reason why people cheat on their partner is because of something lacking, or perceived to be lacking, in their marriage.
There are many signs of cheating, some obvious, some not so.
Outlined below are six of the major reasons for a spouse turning to another person for sexual intimacy:
1. Protest
There are many people who consider that they are within their rights to have an affair particularly if there is no intimacy at home because they and their spouse are continually arguing over matters. These people will often seek understanding and peace in the arms of another person as compensation for the problems they are facing in their marriage.
2. Insecurity
There may be many reasons for this. For example:
- A man may very well feel disenfranchised when his pregnant wife focuses entirely on the impending birth of their child and excludes him from any form of intimacy.
- Many women get wrapped up in their children’s lives and tend to neglect the intimate side of a spousal relationship.
- A man will often concentrate on his job and ignore his wife and family. She may then seek the attention of someone else to provide her with the companionship that is missing in her marital relationship.
- Either party may begin to feel vulnerable about their age and their sexual attractiveness with advancing years.
3. Sex & Love
When one of the spouses has declining, or no interest in a sexual relationship with their partner but the spouse’s sexual feelings are still strong, an affair is often seen as the answer to sexual fulfillment.
A person may still need the same sort of love that they first had at the beginning of their relationship. This is of course not realistic because the total sexual and emotional “in love” feeling that both partners had for each other is a short lived thing - many people don’t acknowledge this and yearn for what was in the early period of their relationship. When that rush of sexually charged love goes, a spouse may think that something is wrong with their relationship and look for satisfaction elsewhere.
In many of these situations a straying spouse will convince themselves that they have only got involved in an extramarital affair because of what is often called the “fun” that is missing from their marriage.
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4. The One Night Stand
These are usually affairs that don’t involve romance or love so they have very little significance to the straying partner beyond providing an outlet to satisfy their lust for more intimacy. Nevertheless such affairs can have a devastating effect on an innocent partner if they should ever find out.
5. Growing Apart
Couples interests alter and often go in different directions sometimes reaching a point where they can no longer fulfill each others needs.
6. Breakdown of a Relationship
When a relationship reaches the point where there are irreconcilable differences it is common for one or both partners to go about searching for someone else so that they have companionship when the marriage dissolves.
Here are a couple of very common reasons why some individuals are “affair prone”, and remain having extramarital affairs throughout a committed marriage, although they mostly have no intention of breaking it up:
Excitement
There are those people who are obsessed by their early feelings of love and intimacy with their partner and desperately want those feelings and involvement to continue unabated although they understand that this is an unrealistic expectation. A break up with their partner is generally not a consideration so they become involved in secret meetings with willing partners who provide them with the exciting love and intimacy that is now missing in their married relationship.
Fear of Intimacy
For some people the intimacy of a committed relationship is too hard to handle. An affair, short or long term, becomes a means of creating distance and privacy. For those involved in a long term affair they have in effect established two part time relationships, one involving their spouse and the other with their partner outside marriage. In this scenario they have effectively eliminated the possibility of having full intimacy with either.
