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How to Turn Confrontations into Positive Events

Do you feel that confrontation is an easy way to loose someone? 
Are you somewhat doubtful of the idea of conflicts as the way for change?
What if effectively resolving conflicts can improve your relationship?
What if a confrontation was not a message of reject, but a reach out for help and recognition?

Think about your reasons to confront someone..
When you initiate a confrontation, ,

Is it that You feel the need of recognition and confirmation from your partner?
OR
Is it because destroying your relationship or harming your partner is what you want?

You would say that it is about recognition and confirmation.

It is not easy to control when you are in the midst of confrontation.
Positive conflict techniques will allow you to negotiate your point while giving your partner the same recognition.

These are the things you should know about conflict:

• Early indicators of conflict can often be recognized, giving you a chance before things get out of hand.
• Conflict is inevitable in any healthy relationship, so accept it in your life.
• Although inevitable, once accepted and planned for, conflict can be minimized, diverted, managed and resolved.
• If you prepare for a confrontation, you will less reason to fear it.
• There are strategies for resolution that are available and DO work.
• You can always determine what needs change in your relationship.

Some people think that conflicts and confrontations are to be avoided at all costs. 
As a result, they get so good at avoiding them, that they are blocked by their own limitations, reaching always the same dead ends.

But how can you void this trap?

You should not be threatened of the thought that conflict can easily make you lose your loved ones. Think that any confrontation can be seen as an opportunity to build something more solid, like building a breach between your needs and his or her needs..

Neil Warner
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